Talking to Kids About Social Media Safety & Digital Boundaries

What do your children know about the online world? How often do you speak about it?

Social media is everywhere, it’s difficult to avoid, and kids are naturally curious. They want to get involved if their friends are using it; they want to know what’s happening.

So how do we keep them safe without the constant arguments about what they can or can’t do online?

It’s all about trust, communication, and healthy boundaries.

How to Speak to Your Child About Social Media Safety

Conversation Starters by Age Group

Under 8s:

At this age, you need to keep it simple and have clear discussions on things that are ‘bad’ and ‘good’. 

-              “Not everything we see online is real” 

-              “We always tell a grown-up if someone new messages us.”

Ages 9–12:

In the later years of primary school and heading into secondary, kids are more aware of their friendships and feelings that something isn’t quite right. However, they still need guidance to understand what is and isn’t right, and what to do if something feels off – i.e. talking to an adult about it. Explain why rules exist – for their safety, not for control.

Over 13s:

At this age, it is important to have more open conversations. Talking about privacy settings and not sharing too many private details, as well as managing their own online reputation, and not posting anything that could lead to future issues.

It’s also important to put focus on bullying and trolling, ensuring your children understand the repercussions of posting anonymously, and having the pressure to post and join in on trends to be seen as ‘cool’.

The key is to encourage ongoing conversation surrounding the digital world, so children don’t feel like they have to hide their online world. It also means dedication from us parents to keep on top of what‘s going on in your child’s life and guide their development.